DA Rules

Those who are aligned do not need to be chased, corrected, or controlled.
They regulate themselves to remain in proximity.

Rule 1: Obedience is voluntary, not negotiated.
You choose to be here. I choose whether you stay.

Rule 2: Access is not guaranteed.
Presence is granted, not owed.

Rule 3: Silence is a response.
Lack of reply does not mean confusion. It means pause, distance, or decision.

Rule 4: I do not chase compliance.
Those aligned adjust themselves.

Rule 5: Speak with intention.
No rambling. No urgency. No emotional dumping.

Rule 6: Ask once, clearly.
Repeated requests signal impatience and insecurity.

Rule 7: No over-familiarity.
Tone must remain respectful, grounded, and measured.

Rule 8: You do not talk over, correct, or debate me.
Clarification may be offered when invited.

Rule 9: Emotional regulation is your responsibility.
I am not here to soothe dysregulation you have not managed.

Rule 10: You move at my pace, not yours.
Rushing intimacy or progression closes doors.

Rule 11: You respect time boundaries without commentary.
No guilt, no pressure, no entitlement.

Rule 12: Consistency outweighs intensity.
Reliable presence > dramatic gestures.

Rule 13: Curiosity is welcome. Entitlement is not.
Interest must be clean, not demanding.

Rule 14: Appreciation is given freely, not to extract reward.
Gratitude is not a transaction.

Rule 15: Instructions are followed as given.
If something cannot be done, state so once—calmly.

Rule 16: You do not test boundaries “as a joke.”
Boundaries are not experiments.

Rule 17: You do not require reassurance unless it is offered.
Certainty is cultivated internally.

Rule 18: I do not punish. I remove access.
No arguments. No dramatics. Just distance.

Rule 19: Loss of access is not explained by default.
Reflection is your task, not my labor.

Rule 20: Re-entry is not automatic.
Alignment is demonstrated over time.

Rule 21: Obedience never replaces self-respect.
You are responsible for your own wellbeing.

Rule 22: Dependency is not devotion.
Autonomy is required.

Rule 23: You remain grounded in your own life.
This dynamic enhances—it does not consume.